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There’s a Snag in My Nag

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Gwen Smith

March 16, 2014

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My nerves were raw because of the faint, repetitive sound in the background of our conversation. As I sat in my parents’ kitchen talking to my mom, the faucet behind her was dripping… and dripping… and dripping.

It. Drove. Me. Bananas.

I got up and tightened the handle.

It didn’t help.

I wanted to grab the nearest screwdriver and fix it. But, I couldn’t. I’m not a sink-fixer. I cannot express to you how severely lacking my sink-fixing skills are. And although I’m sure there is an online instructional video that could teach me how to fix that faucet in five quick steps, I had neither the desire to learn nor the patience to try.

Drip. Drip. Drip.

Isn’t it amazing how something so small and seemingly insignificant can bother us? It was torture! I left the room. I had to. I needed to get away from the sound of the drip.

Once I composed myself, I got to thinking. The Bible compares this type of drip to a quarrelsome and nagging woman. The MESSAGE paraphrase of Proverbs 27:15 reads, “A nagging spouse is like
the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet; You can’t turn it off, 
and you can’t get away from it.” Likewise, the NIV version of Proverbs 19:13 says, “…a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof.”

The word “nag” is defined by [i]Webster’s Online dictionary this way:

  • to find fault incessantly: complain
  • to be a persistent source of annoyance or distraction
  • to irritate by constant scolding or urging

Zinger!

Obviously, this behavior is not gender specific – men can surely nag and be quarrelsome too. Whether the behavior comes from a man or a woman, a friend or a foe, the impact is universal: nagging is a negative behavior that drives people to frustration, drives others away, and does not bring glory to God. Period.

I wonder how many times we drive our husbands, our co-workers, our children, our friends or even our acquaintances away because of nagging or quarrelsome behavior?  Are we even aware of it in our own lives? Do we justify it or brush it off when another person fails to meet our expectations?

Am I stepping on some toes here? I assure you, mine are bearing the weight too. Oh, how we can complain and vie for control. Our expectations of others so stir us up: how we think they should act, communicate, behave, respond, and dress. Blah. Blah. Blah. The truth of the matter is, we cannot choose behavior for others, but we can choose for ourselves.

We can choose to walk worthy of our calling in Christ. (Colossians 1:10) We can choose to call on God so that His Spirit can be evidenced in and through us in the spiritual discipline of self-control. Nagging fuels the fire of contention and frustration. Quarreling does the same. But don’t take my word for it… take God’s Word for it!

“As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife.” (Proverbs 26:21)

“Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.” (Philippians 2:14-15)

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29)

So you see? There’s a snag in our nag! We can try to justify nagging all we want, but when push comes to shove, it is not a behavior that is supported by Scripture. Say it with me, “There’s a snag in my nag!”

In light of this, what will your behavior look like next time you are tempted to nag, quarrel, complain, or attempt to control another? Here are a few ideas to help eliminate our drips:

Replace nagging with prayer. (Not with: “Lord, change him or her!” But with: Lord change me. Help me. Strengthen me. Give me Your grace. Give me Your wisdom.”)

Leave the room or conversation if possible or appropriate. (Don’t even give yourself a chance to get the words out!)

Change what you can controlyour response.

Eventually, my parents got their leaky faucet fixed. I’m still working on my leak, but with God’s help, I know I can do all things. We all can. Would you join me today in asking God to help us honor Him with our words and responses?

 

Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times when I have attempted to control my circumstances and other people through nagging and quarreling. Forgive me for the times when complaining has been my response. Help me to sift my words and my thoughts through Your grace. Help me grow in You and show You in all I do. In Jesus’s name, amen.

 

Thanks for doing life with me,
Gwen

 

FOR YOUR REFLECTION

Where does this find you today? Spend time journaling and praying about this.

FOR YOUR RESPONSE: Need prayer? Leave a prayer request in the comments section. Then pause to pray for some of the other prayer needs and encourage one another.

 

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About Gwen Smith


Gwen Smith

I am an unashamed, imperfect worshiper of Jesus Christ. I cling to His goodness to cover my mess and purpose my days to live out the hope of the Gospel. It is my joy and passion to inspire women to live fully in grace and truth. I write books, devotions and songs. I speak. I sing. I worship. I post, pin and tweet. I am intensely in love with the Word of God and believe, wholeheartedly, that the Bible is divinely inspired truth.

  • Lena

    Thank you Lord for this message today – I have been nagging because of finances. Grant me wisdom and grace

  • Hope

    Thank you Lord for today’s message. I will continue to pray you strengthen me in the area of nagging. Change me and I will be able to see things through your eyes not mine.

  • Camille

    Heavenly Father, it is through You that all positive things are done. I pray for unwavering faith in You and the ability to turn my issues and concerns over to you. I am not able to fix others or decide what changes should be made-only You Lord.

  • Jenn

    Thank you Lord for todays message! I feel like you were directing this right to me. Its so easy to find fault in my children, please help me to guide them, but not by nagging.

  • Jennifer Prinzing Carr

    Please remember my dear friend Jen who has a very extensive surgery this week – removal of her second breast (preventative) and reconstruction from her abdominal muscles and tissue. She triumphed greatly through her previous battle with cancer during surgery, radiation, and chemotherapy. May God once touch her body!

    • B

      I come into agreement with u for full recovery for your friend in the name of jesus. Lord you are the great physician and we ask you for a speedy recovery, in jesus name
      Amen

  • Bigmouth in NC

    Please pray for me that God strengthen me, my nag is appalling even to me at times. I don’t want to live this life pointing out the negatives, I want to point out the good things. My husband is most often the target of my rants and he does not deserve it, nobody does.

  • Linda

    This really hit me where I live today! From the beginning of our marriage I have always made it my goal to build my husband up with my words, never to tear him down. Now that we have two boys, I need to do the same with them!!! Unfortunately, particularly with our older son, I’ve been doing an awful job with this. Please pray that God will enable me to encourage him regularly with my words & QUIT WITH THE NAGGING! Thank you so much!!! God bless you & thank you for these devotions, this one in particular!

  • Kay

    Pray that God will change my attitude and my heart. I fear that I will live out my days as a lonely old woman because of my need to be in control.

  • Juliews

    Please keep me in prayer that I may receive God’s discernment over my thoughts & words as I die to self and live in Christ.

  • B

    B,
    Please pray for me. The older i get the more i complain. Everyone bothers
    Me. I have come to realize i am very controling. Lately i have been tearing my husband down with unhealty words. I have mix emotions right now because he use money from our house without me knowing. I have forgiving him but i just dont trust him with our money anymore. Please pray for me because i know its wrong. It just bothers me time to time. I try to die to flesh daily but it hard.
    God bless

    • Trisha

      I have a small suggestion. Try to find a group of mom’s that are going thru the same thing. I did – 27 years ago because of the same reason. Made me feel like I had a normal baby and I no longer felt like I would lose my sanity. Please know your beautiful baby girl will grow out of it! God has blessed you with the ultimate gift of life!

  • New Mommy

    Please pray for me. I am a new Mom to a sweet, beautiful baby girl…that is extremely colicky! My strength is lessening by the day and it is so easy to complain. My pregnancy was tough, birth was tough, and now this. I know I have SO much to be thankful for. Please pray that God will give me strength and wisdom to know that this will pass. I do not want to look back and regret not enjoying her early months of life. Thank you and God Bless!

  • Dee

    Pray that I will not nag my spouse during this time, his infidelity has hurt me real bad:(

  • gwen carter

    Please pray for my son-in-law who has been out of work for 4 years. He is in forestry and this field is also closed down in our area. He so needs to connect with other Christian Men. Please God don’t let me nag him instead build him up and the same with my daughter.

  • Nikki

    Please pray that I will stop nagging and being grumpy toward my husband and kids. Pray that God will change me and help me to become the woman he has created me to be and that I will draw my family to want to be with me instead of pushing them away. Thanks and God Bless!

    • Patty

      This is also my prayer today, thank you for sharing!
      I will pray for your strength Nikki, to guide your motives … and actions … and WORDS, to align with your goal to be a woman whose family draws close to you.
      We were designed to love and nurture, and we CAN.
      It’s all about “slowing down” and making wiser choices with our words.

      Have a beautiful, inspired kind of day!
      <3

  • Mayra

    Please pray for me to stop nagging my wonderful husband & kids. To speak with kinder & sweeter words. Pray for my fincenses. This is causing some distractions in my house hold.

  • Jayne

    Prayer for the next year as I come off meds for chronic pain, as I can’t be pregnant on it, if God will come through in his timing, & to show me better strategies in handling the pain without drugs? A MIRACLE is what I’m hoping for xxx
    God is BiG!

  • Joi

    This beautiful devotion touched me in a different way than probably was intended – that’s the beauty of devotions and Christian fellowship. God can speak to you in ways you didn’t expect! By God’s grace, I am not a nag (whatsoever) to my husband, daughters, sons-in-law, or any other human beings for that matter.

    What this message pointed out to me was that I am guilty of sometimes nagging God, Himself! When I don’t feel like He has answered a prayer quickly enough or when I have moments of despair, I must sound like a leaky faucet to Him. Nag, nag, nag, nag.. as if He didn’t hear me the first 100 times!

    I needed this message today and want to thank you for being a lovely vessel through which God sent it to me. It’s a wonderful reminder to always make ourselves available to God because He might just use us to change a life.

    As for prayer requests, I have prayed for the ones I see in the comments and will continue to do so. I ask for prayers for one of my daughter’s boyfriends. Two of my three girls are married to wonderful Christian young men, but one daughter’s boyfriend (while a sweetheart and, in most ways, wonderful himself!) is lost. He’s very confused and it breaks my heart. Please pray that Jesus will reach him and a young, confused heart will no longer be confused… but rather saved by Jesus! Thank you. – Joi (“Joy”)

  • Patty

    I love the GIG devotionals, they keep me going in a such a better direction than my nature would lead me. Actually, after grabbing my morning coffee, it’s the very first thing I desire to connect to, it’s my lifeline on so many days! If dread creeps in … I battle it with the word of God, and GIG helps me so much to focus on relevant issues in MY LIFE!

    I find myself saying, “Wow, there’s another one written JUST FOR ME!”

    They are what I call “GOD moments!” You know, when you get the goosebumps and feel the hand of God on your shoulder, getting your attention in a hectic world of “to-dos.”

    I feel empowered, positive, and strong after reading words of encouragement, knowing I’m not the only one who struggles.

    It’s okay to admit I’m a sinner, still working on myself. To guide my wheels back on the path and peddle on toward becoming the person I want to be!

    I know I’m a good person, a devout follower with strong faith, who believes I’m saved and blessed, yet it’s so difficult to control my words.

    I struggle with self-control.

    Why is it so difficult to control my motive, behavior, acts, and spirit?
    It is my fervent desire to be a blessing to others, bathing them with LOVE, always!

    THANKS to all of you who read and share here.

    I’ve never visited the blog.
    BUT…
    It’s another layer of blessing on my life, to join with other women like me, who want to live out the word of God in their actions, of LOVE and care, to their families and all they meet!

    PLEASE PRAY FOR ME TODAY!

  • Emily

    Please pray that I would be able to resist nagging my brother and that I would have the patience and discipline to bite my tongue or walk away when need be. Please pray that there would be peace in my household. Most of all, though, please pray that he would come to Christ and that we as his family we would be an example of Christ’s love to him and not let our flesh get in the way of loving him more. Thank you.

  • Char

    We are in the process of building our home, and there have been some delays, it has been really strestfull, so I ask for joy and peace in this process… to eliminate any nagging in my life. Also I need a financial miracle and the wisdom to adjust to my budget.

    :-)

  • Alicia

    There is a HUGE TEAR in my nag! Not just a snag! Pray that I can be content with where the Lord has placed me. I can’t control what i can’t control and nagging is not the solution. Thank you for the wonderful reminder. I need lots of prayer to correct this “snag” in my life!

  • Nancy

    Thank you so much for this message today. My father is on a limited income and I am his legal and financial representative. He keeps spending money on things (I think) he does not need and buying gifts for my sisters and me. Of course this is a source of contention because I think he should save what little money he has and he gets joy from having some control over his life (he has lost so much control over the last few years). My visit with him this weekend was a nagfest on my part, and I ashamed to admit it. Please pray that I will be able to gently help him with his finances and not nag him-being right does not make it right. Thank you, God bless you.

  • Linda Thomas

    This is such a great blog thank you. We all to keep our minds Christ and to know what is Pleasing to God..Nagging is not one of them,may I try to not to be a nagger!!!

  • Lisa

    Wow, did this touch home today! I said to my husband as he was walking out the door, I really hound you, don’t I! He is a grown man and he does not need me on his back!! Thank you for this message today, please pray that The Lord helps me be speak life not death with my tongue, the enemy comes to steal,kill and destroy and he will use our mouth to do it!

  • Cookie

    Reading this today I saw that I nag in my daily prayers for the needs in my life. How pathetic of me. Wanting my way when I should be content in “letting God”. He has only the best planned for me. I know this – I just can’t seem to keep it close in my heart.

  • Biti

    Your post today was a great help for me.must keep in mind that nagging is not helpful at all. I even nag in my prayers and quarrel about my everyday live.The power of live is in our tongue, I know, so I pray to God to help me speak only his words.Bless you!

  • Radonna

    Much prayer needed for me, cause I have a big snag in my nag. Thank You Gwen for today’s and everyday devotions. Today really got to my heart.

  • Title

    I needed to read this for today, because I know I have nagging Just this weekend I flared up @ my husband and so did he, but after it was over we both apologized to each other. Thank You

  • Kathy

    Thank you Gwen for this devotion. It really has humbled and ashamed me for my actions on the people that mean the most to me. I always pray for my husband and children and get very upset when choices aren’t according to how I feel they should be. I know God has a purpose for all and perfect timing also. Lord stop my “leak” as I ” seek” you and control myself. Keep my mouth shut and only be used for up lifting words. Girlfriends in God is always a blessing to me. Thank you.

  • AngelicDove30

    Please Lord help me with my negativity. I notice I am a nagger and a complainer. Help me with this Lord. Also, I worry about too. I have low self-esteem and I want to be confident in you and myself. Help me with this Lord in Jesus name Amen

  • sue

    I too have a big snag in my nag, and have difficulty sometimes
    dealing with my daughters and my expectations of them, because I want what I think is best for them, even though they may not agree. Motherhood can be hard when children are less than perfect–as we ALL are; help me to see them as the beautiful young independent women they are, instead of what I feel they should be, even if I think they would be happier if they would only follow my advice. Help me to realize that they are strong smart thinkers, and can make their own decisions, and need a mother who supports and loves them no matter what. Help me to fix my own flaws instead of focusing on theirs. Thank you God for the blessing of my girls and my family; help me to be aware and appreciate all You have given me

  • Kanani7

    Heavenly Father, please forgive me for having a snag in my nag. I complain when things are not done at home, please change me, help me to respond it in a way that will please you. In Jesus name. Amen. Thank you Abba for Gwen; giving her the wisdom to share this among all of us…May GOD continue to bless you with HIS words Gwen.

  • Naomi

    Thank you for your post today, I have been praying consistently for God to change my ways of nagging and quarellsome especially with my loved ones. Please keep me in prayer for change and letting go and let God! God knows my heart, and I pray that I live a Godly life and make him a part of my life wholeheartly, I will overcome this obstacle and many more that I don’t have control over, I give you full control Lord, thank you for your mercy father, in Jesus name I pray- Amen

  • Martha

    I cringe every time I read those verses in Proverbs… I believe it’s mentioned @ least 3 or 4 times. Please pray for my estranged spouse & I, separated now for over 4 years. I’m still waiting on God to create for us a brand new rock solid marriage. He makes all things new & is doing a new thing Halleluyah!!

  • Tyler

    I have been struggling with my relationship with God lately. I have still been praying and trying to read scripture, but I know I haven’t been doing this as much as I need to. I am trying to grow closer to God, but doubt is constantly knocking down my faith and trust. I have no idea why, and this has never really been an issue before. Prayers are greatly appreciated. Your devotionals are an encouragement to me every day.

  • susan

    Thank you for article.I’ve become a nagging wife I don’t like it. I pray for God to restore my marriage been going through alot to painful to mention. Satan has my husband in bondage. I watched the movie Fireproof it describes us. It broke my heart to watch it.

  • Renee

    Thanks for the great message! I have been working on changing over the past several months. My husband and I have been struggling and .things are still very difficult. Please pray for both our hearts to be open to receive God’s Grace and restore our marriage for his glory.

  • Hopie

    I am ready for the 10 minute challenge

  • robin

    I in for the 10 min a day challenge to read MORE of THE WORD !

  • Mel

    Gwen, I just read “There’s A Snag in My Nag” and I know I need prayer – to help me overlook the imperfections of others that annoy me. Add patience to that as well!

  • KLM

    Thank you!! Only the Lord can change my heart and help my constant nagging at my husband and teenagers. I want them to love me!!!!

  • Blasun24

    Gwen, please pray for me. I am constantly focusing on the behaviors and actions of my fiance because they are hurtful. I need help with focusing on my own actions and response. Thank you!

  • Kelly

    Gwen, Thank you very much for your article. Please pray for me, my heart and attitude towards my husband is bitter, and I don’t want to feel this way. I just read Susan’s message, and I too have a husband whom satan traps and holds hostage. I also saw the movie Fireproof and this has been like my marriage. I want to rise up above the pain that this causes and find comfort. Thank you for all of your wonderful messages, I do so appreciate them.

    • Adrianne

      Praying for you . I have been where you are. Keep seeking God’s help daily. He gives us all we need if we will just ask.

      • Kelly

        Thank you Adrianne, I do so appreciate your positive words of encouragement. Yes, It is truly amazing what God can do, their is nothing to great or small that we cannot ask for help in, and he is such a comfort.

  • Elizabeth

    Please pray for me as I am a newly wed and desire to be a supportive wife to my husband even when he is negative. I also ask that you help me to pray for my father who is in the hospital. Thank you for your constant messages of hope, encouragement and understanding. God Bless!

  • Adrianne

    Thanks for the message. I believe God is using our relationships with our husbands to strengthen our relationship with Him. He is preparing us to be His spotless bride. Oh how I am so far from spotless! Thank you for another confirmation of God’s word for me today.

  • Kim

    Gwen, Thank you for many inspiring words. I have a very big snag in my nag. My husband has been dealing with a couple of health issues that have put a big strain on our marriage. My prayer is that I will embrace him with love and caring and that God will see us through this difficult time of our lives. Praying for those who are also struggling.

  • Tiffany

    Thanks for your words on the Word. I have been deep in a pit spiritually for a year…a place I’ve never been….and I don’t know how to get out. I started by subscribing to devotionals, and yours has been a blessing. May I clamp my mouth shut rather than nag!!!!

  • susan cherono

    Thanks for your word quiet encouraging because i have been a nagging woman,like a leaking tap please i need your prayers as I am getting married in two months and i don’t want to destroy my marriage.Good work keep….

  • Lisa Dwinchick-Klotz

    This devotion has opened my eyes and mind this morning! Praise God for encouragement from faithful women like Gwen. I need prayer for my responses and actions towards others when I am angry. I need to respond in a more loving and calm way. I need God’s grace to overcome my anger and insecurities. Please be in prayer for me to respond to others as God would respond. Thank you!

    • Marlene

      Lisa,

      I understand where you are as that is where I am also. I join you in prayer for God’s grace and strength to help you.

  • Paula Williams

    Thank you for this devotion. I have recognized some errors in my life. I know I can’t control others. I can only control my own actions, words and thoughts. I just ask that you pray for me to not get upset of what other people in my life do. I can’t control what they say, how they behave, how they dress or what they do. I just need God to help me to express how I feel in a calm and loving way and not just keep how I feel tucked away.

  • Marlene

    Thank you Gwen. Right now there is a strain in my relationship with my husband and have asked God to show me what I need to do to fix it. This devotion opened my eyes. I clearly see how my actions negatively impacts us. I am praying for God’s grace and help to be the wife he designed me to be. I need to listen to my husband before responding angrily and not always assume he is being critical. I know I need to apologize for my behavior but am hesitant because of how he will respond. Please keep me in prayer that we will have a positive conversation and he will be receptive to my apology

  • Heather Bruce Kalk

    I feel like this devotion was written specifically for me today. God got my attention this morning through you, that’s for sure! My husband and I are having a serious issue, and I am guilty of nagging him continually about this problem that impacts his health. Please pray that I will be silent and talk to God when I feel the urge to nag.

  • Heather Bruce Kalk

    I feel that this devotion was written specifically for me. God has really gotten my attention through you this morning, Gwen! I have been nagging my husband continually about an issue that impacts his health, and I have slowly begun to realize that it is not making a difference. This devotion seals the deal for me. Please pray that I will turn to God when I feel the need to nag, that I will build up my husband instead of tearing him down, and that I will have hope for his health to improve.

  • cathy

    Thanks for all your devotion, please pray with me for a miracle of a baby

  • jan

    Wow this hit me right between the eyes this morning, following my triad last night. I did ask forgivness form God and my husband, and I am assured of that, but my poor choices have a negative impact on my relationship. Thank-you for pointing out thecontrol part of this problem. That helps me to see what really is behind this behavior. I need to surrender that to God.
    Gwen, thank-you for your honesty!
    God bless.

  • Michelle

    Wow, your devotionals are just what I need. My husband isn’t following God. I want our girls to have a Godly father. Yes, so I complain that he does this and that. I am going to write a few of these verses down, then when I get upset, read them. I know God will have to help me because this is going to be tough for me. Maybe our marriage will change by me doing this. At times, I just feel like giving up. I pray that I will do better and not complain.

  • Linda

    I certainly appreciate all you have shared about being a nag. I sure hope and pray that I can remember that when God blesses me to share living space with my future roommate. I am living alone right now and my prayer request is for the finances to maintain all that he has given me; my home, car and all that goes with them. I have been unemployed since August 2013 and really need to have some form of income. Please touch and agree with me and others who are praying that God in Jesus name will soon grant my petition. I so desire to be an asset to the Kingdom of God in every way, spiritually and physically; good health and prosperity.

  • Roslyn

    Thank you for this devotion, it is a reminder to me of the harm that I can cause when trying to change someone with my words. GOD is the only one who can truly change me and anyone else. My boyfriend sometimes drinks too much and I have been trying to get that changed by trying to find the right words to get through to him, I’ve been advised that that approach just adds to the pressure and stress that causes him to drink in the first place! Please pray for me that I concentrate on being the person that GOD has called me to be, the intercessor that he wants me to be and to let HIM be GOD! Please also pray for my relationship with my boyfriend and my children and grandchildren.

    Thank you!

    • Heather J. Troetti

      I’ll pray for you Linda

  • Choirgirl

    Yes, I’ve stopped nagging. But it usually means doing it all myself, because my spouse can procrastinate like no body’s business. But I decided I’d rather be exhausted and obedient to God.

  • Heather J. Troetti

    This one hit close to home.., too close. I have been so guilty of
    the times when I have attempted to control my circumstances and other people through nagging and quarreling. I need prayer for those times when complaining seems to take over and destroy the conversations with my husband. Then he immediately goes into defense mode (obviously) and we continue this banter until finally one of us apologizes or surrenders. It’s something I’ve been praying about for the past few months. Please help me pray because I need The Lord to give me a serious attitude adjustment. I love my husband and want to be the wife God has planned me to be.
    Thanks Gwen for your devotionals. They inspire me. God bless you.

  • Elsie Davies

    I thank God for allowing me to read this morning devotion from you, I just had a fight with my boyfriend this morning, I vow never to be the women who nag the man she date, or others, but I find myself been that person. I know if I stay connected to God, I will not disrespect him like I do through his children. I have fallen far from God grace and his words, I have not devoted my time to Jesus like he will love for me to do. I asked for prayer over my choice of words, how I treat and interact with others, I pray for a committed spirit to read and devoted myself and time to God and to be consistent in the work of Jesus, and not to allow the demands of work, school, or personal life get in the way of my relationship with Jesus. He mean the word to me and I can’t image my life without him, every breath I take, comes from him. I want Jesus to know that I am truly sorry for all the hurts and pains I cause him through my sin.

  • Sarah

    I would love prayer for my husband to return to serving The Lord and for the restoration of our marriage. We have faced so many things in life that have ripped our marriage apart. It will take an act of God to heal our marriage and I am praying for a miracle. Please also pray for the removal of certain people from our marriage that are preventing true commitment and healing from occurring.

    • Patricia

      Sarah, I can relate to what you are experiencing in your marriage because I am experiencing the same in mine. We can pray for each other’s marriage to be healed and made new by the power and grace of the Lord Jesus!

      • Avion

        Hi Sarah, I just prayed for you. I can relate. I have similar situation, but hold on because God is able.

    • Gill

      Hi Sarah, I am praying for you. I am going through the same thing and have actually separated which is heartbreaking. But ALL things are possible with God and I will be praying for restoration of your marriage and for it to be Christ centred. Love you precious sister in Christ.

  • karen

    Wow, this is just what I needed to hear today. My problem isn’t with my husband but with my co-workers…. thank you

  • Jeannie

    Thank you Gwen for these words. This is exactly what I needed today. Please pray for me and my relationships with others.

    Jeannie

  • Betty George

    It’s a blessing to admit when we are wrong and going against the words of God. I want to continue learning how to live as a Godly wife and face things I need to change to do so. Amen my sisters.

  • Carmen

    Thank you so much for this devotion. I am currently going through a tough situation. I was engaged to the love of my life and was happier than I had ever been in my life. All of a sudden, he was wanting some space then the next thing I know, the engagement was off and I was single. I felt like my world had fallen apart. Only with God’s grace and help I have worked myself through this and developed a closer relationship with Him. Now, my ex-fiance wants to work things out and get back together. I do too, it’s just I feel like I’m expecting too much and I do “nag” a lot with him. Reminding him that he was the reason we were in this situation and that he was the one that broke up with me and ended our great relationship. I honestly really do love him, I just need help with letting go of all the negative and focus on the positive. This devotion made me realize that I was focusing on all of the negatives and not the positives. I just pray that God will guide me and help me to see His will in this. Prayers are much needed to keep strong and positive. Thank you!

  • Pansy

    This is a twist on who’s nagging who. I am 65 and my son of 25 is the one who nags. Everything you said describes my son who I live with. Prayer soo needed for choices we both are making right now. God is opening doors for me and wisdom is needed and prayers for my sons salvation. Thank you so much….

  • Jodi

    Dear Gwen, I didn’t realize what a NAG I really was until now. And, everything you said would happen did with my most important relationship…my husband and now he is my former spouse. Ugh, I really wish I could apologize to him, however I do not feel it is the appropriate time to do so. Please pray that God will utilize the Holy Spirit in my life to intercede and to make me aware of all my words, behaviors and reactions. I only want to behave and speak words that are encouraging! I took notes off this blog so I can be reminded daily the better way to deal with these situations. Thank you for sharing this insightful information. Have a blessed weekend. Jodi

  • Avion

    This devotion has blessed my heart. Just the words I needed to hear from God. God is an awesome God. Just this week some one came and told me not to be a nagging wife. I am going through a situation with my husband where he has stopped going to church and start partying and staying out late. I have been nagging and arguing constantly. This devotion was meant for me. Please help me to pray for my situation as God continues to work.

  • America

    Thank you for the reminder. God has been tugging on my heart for the past 2 weeks on this particular subject in which I will admit I have chosen to put aside ( my stubbornness) but, this morning I was reading something that I really wasn’t edifying for my spirit and something told me to check my email. I did and right away started to deleted what was not interesting and then I saw one that said Girlfriends to God. I deleted everything I didn’t want and then… I opened yours. In My Face. I can’t run anymore. I have to face my bad habit, behavior or call it what you will. God really spoke to me today through your devotional. He is so good. He has been working and been so patient with me that if I would have read this email 3 months ago, I probably would have read it move on but, today, today He reminded me of how much he loves me and only wants the best for me and my marriage and my family. Thank you so much for your Very Encouraging words. Look forward to reading some more.

  • Ceil Sconzo

    Gwen, I didn’t know I can be put on your prayer list. Please pray for my relationship with my two daughters who have hardened their hearts towards Jesus especially my daughter Stephanie who has left her husband and child. It is absolutely killing me slowly that she left her daughter and spends such little time with her. My other daughter just needs to be a believer once again.

  • Linda

    Gwen, Thank you so much for today’s devotion. My husband and I are right where you talking about. the nagging, complaining, sarcasm. But I can control how I live and respond. All things are possible!

  • Leona Campo

    I have found myself ,over whelmed ,with anger. My ex husband whom i loved,has cheated for so many year’s. My son has taken all the monies ,i had and let me with nothing. I struggle to keep my head above the water..I find myself more every day thinking ,about my property my ex ,has allowed these women and, his friend’s take ,that belonged to me..i know it’s just material’s thing’s,but between his affairs ,my son stealing my money ,i just cannot see a way out of this dark pit.I want to find peace in my life . I want to feel my Lord’s present’s. I pray for his help and I know he is there. I still live this burden of a life alone. How do i release these thing’s from my heart.? I feel if i could ,then my Lord will know ,my heart is open to only him…I think what i do in my life is right but i know it cannot be true. I should only have room in my heart for my Lord and not filed with these problems ,that never seem to leave me. I ask for your pray’s to allow my Lord ,to wipe my heart clean from these material’s thing’s and these hurtful action by my child..I want my heart to be only filled with the Lord,in every thing i think about ,in every thing i do in my life…Thank you for allowing me to write this. I feel the Lord has led me here. I have never known anything about this site…I’m grateful and blessed ,thank you all so much.

    • Sarah

      Leona, my heart identifies with your pain. Be assured that God’s heart identifies with you even more. He has a way forward for you and a perfect plan for your life. Keep your eyes focused on Him and His gospel of salvation, righteousness and peace. It is the only way. But remember we are not alone. We have the power of His Holy Spirit in us as believers, to strengthen and empower us to do Gods will. Affirm your righteous standing before God because of the sacrifice of Christ. Only through claiming the power of His forgiveness in our own lives, because of His sinless life, can we be fully free from the effects of others sin towards us in our own. Hold your head up. You are a daughter of the King of the universe ! xx

  • Judy

    Gwen, reading this was God’s timing to do so. But has opened my eyes to what our family as a whole is relating to each other at the present time. With an over abundance of stress in our live’s leaves you just not being able to take that “Drip Drip Drip” sound. Please pray for our whole family. I’m so over whelmed and depressed. It feel almost impossible to deal with a 14 yr old daughter and her issue’s and 2 son’s 11 & 8 yrs old and a new christian husband. Pray that I just pray and read his word more. Let go what I can’t change, and let God transform me and my family with peace and joy. Any suggestions would be more than welcome from a person who is so broken.

  • Laura

    This was so my day. I felt frustrated and nagged because my children were not doing or acting the way I thought they should. It only made us all cranky. It is amazing how God always knows what we need to hear! Thank you Lord!

  • dawn

    The Lord directed me to this today just after a ‘hashing out’ of a problem. I live in the same house as my mother-in-law, and we don’t always see eye to eye. Something she said just got under my skin and I reacted without thinking, and without ‘sifting my words through God’s grace’, as you put it. Thank you for this thought-provoking post, and also very much for putting the Scripture references in there to study out.

  • sonide

    Hello. I definitely have a snag in my nag. I have unconsciously trying to change the behavior and decisions that my boyfriend makes because I don’t agree with it all. Our fear of future unknowns has caused me to become a nag. Please pray that I can change my behavior and be patient with him.